I met with a couple last week and asked them to pray about something in their relationship. I asked them not to talk about their issue but to just pray and trust that the Spirit of God would lead them to the same conclusion. We met again yesterday to see what God had revealed. In this instance they came back with a breakthrough concerning a fairly serious issue. Whew!!! and Praise God.
Over the years in counseling and in our leadership team at church I've employed this tactic with great success. Asking the Holy Spirit to speak to us is certainly not ground breaking. But, agreeing not to discuss the matter with each other before discussing it with him might be for some people. So often we tell God what we are going to do and then expect him to bless it. Or, we build a case based on we assume he would say which usually flows from our agenda. How much better, when possible, to spend time listening separately to the one voice of the Spirit. I truly believe that when both people are surrendered to God in prayer, listening to what the Spirit says, they will find common ground. I'm reminded of Ephesians 4:4 which says, " 4 There is one body and one Spirit—just as you were called to one hope when you were called— one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all."
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